If you’ve been anywhere on social media recently, you’ve probably heard the phrase ‘limiting beliefs’.
But what are limiting beliefs? And how is it that our beliefs can affect the course of our lives?
Firstly, let’s define what beliefs are: Beliefs are our on-and-off buttons. They determine everything we can do, and everything we can’t. If you believe something is possible, it is. If you believe something is not possible, it is not. So, where did our beliefs come from? Many people don’t realise that most of our beliefs are not our own. Wait, WHAT?! “How can my beliefs not be my own if they are my beliefs?”
In fact, the majority of our beliefs were absorbed at a young age (between 4-7 years) from the significant people in our life; think parents, grandparents, caregivers and teachers. For example, we may have grown up hearing “We can’t afford that”, or “Money doesn’t grow on trees!” Perhaps for you it was “Money is the root of all evil”. But are any of these actually true (apart from money growing on trees of course!)? Unlikely.
Please don’t mistake me, I am not saying our parents (or other significant caregivers) are, or were, bad people. They did the best they could with the knowledge they had at the time. And it’s likely that their beliefs came from their parents – from a different time – and so on.
But this kind of belief – which may have manifested in you as a ‘poverty mentality’ – may have been a script you heard repeatedly as a child.
As we grow, and without realising, attitudes and beliefs like these can hold us back significantly.
A ‘poverty mentality’ can prevent us from earning the salary we deserve, having higher financial goals, attaining the skills needed to get better jobs or even from striving for a better profession.
Think about this… what do you earn in your current role? Who sets that salary? Is it the employer or did you go in and ask for the salary you want and deserve? Chances are that you are worth twice as much! But perhaps you don’t think you deserve any more than what you were offered. Maybe you think that only people with multiple degrees and 30 years+ experience, or those working at the ‘top levels’ of management, are the ones who deserve to earn the kind of money you want.
Take a moment to imagine what your life would look like if you had the home of your dreams. How would you feel being able to easily provide the best possible education for your family, a reliable vehicle, family holidays, a life free of financial stress?
Or maybe it has nothing to do with financial goals but more on the personal front. It might be a belief such as “I don’t have enough time in the day to exercise/eat healthy/spend more time with the kids”.
Have you considered that your own beliefs or mindset could be the only obstacle to you having this financial freedom or from finding more time?
Ok, I hear what you’re saying. I acknowledge that there are people who genuinely don’t have the money to buy even the basics. I’m not talking about those people.
I’m talking about those of us who are running a program in the back of their mind that is automatically telling them that they can’t afford something, even when they technically can.
And I get that time can be tight in our ‘busy’ world. But some of us are running a program that tells us there is no time to spare in the day, despite a 2021 survey showing that the average Aussie spends 5.5 hours on their phone every day. Think about it. 🤯
These programs are controlling what, when and how we think. These programs were likely built a long time ago and often have no relevance to our current life.
Of course, there are those beliefs that serve us well, like “I believe that if I touch the stove top when it is on, I will burn and hurt myself.” This is a belief we have been taught at a young age that DOES serve us well and we would be wise to listen to it!
So where am I going with this? Simple. If you already have the house of your dreams, if you have enough time to spend doing ALL the things you want in the day, if you are earning all the money you want or if you have your dream job, then you’re doing great! You’re heading in the right direction. Well done.
But if you want more in life, if you want more FROM your life, then it’s time to change tack. It’s time to identify what is holding you back and make a change.
As Ghandi famously said, “Our beliefs become our thoughts, our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our values and our values become our destiny.”
Throw out the excuses. Make this the year to re-evaluate your beliefs and change them to create the life you desire.
Because, when we master our mind and change our beliefs, we change our life!
– Rebekah King, Mindset Coach at Moonbeam Monday Training + Coaching
After a number of significant traumas and years of depression and anxiety, Rebekah hit the proverbial ‘rock bottom’. As luck would have it, she was introduced to a Life Coach who Rebekah now credits as having helped save her life. With her Coach’s help, she understood how her brain worked and what she could do to re-train her mind and change her life.
Rebekah has since implemented drastic changes in her life, including eliminating anxiety and depression, reducing alcohol and changing her diet to lose almost 20kgs, and quitting a job she wasn’t all that happy in.
Rebekah now dedicates her time to supporting others as they discover the limiting beliefs that may be holding them back and rewire their mindset, helping them get from where they are now to where they want to be.
If you want to find out what might be holding you back from living the life you desire, book a FREE 45-minute Discovery Call or connect with Rebekah here.
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