When you are sure of yourself + your ideas, beliefs and actions or have an inner knowing that you can do whatever you put your mind to in a way that is satisfying to you – you become UNSTOPPABLE. This isn’t arrogance, it’s just being sure of yourself in a realistic and grounded way. It’s the amazing feeling of expansiveness and CONFIDENCE in your body that feels really really good!
If you’re confident, you’ll stand strong in your belief in yourself and your opinions. You’ll also be flexible to others’ points of view, but you won’t let these opinions pull you down. You will stand in your power – strong, grounded and secure.
HOW DO WE FEEL CONFIDENT?
Confidence can be something that feels very natural to some people, but doesn’t necessarily feel effortless for others, in either specific areas of life or overall (lots of different factors on our past trauma, upbringing, beliefs etc come into play here). It can also get a bit extreme when we are trying something new or constantly putting ourselves out of our comfort zone. So, next time you find yourself procrastinating on anything because you’re stuck in self-doubt or not feeling confident, apply these 3 tricks to start feeling UNSTOPPABLE straight away –
Who hasn’t heard of this incredible book by Susan Jeffers? Nothing happens unless we take action, take a risk (big or small) and choose courage over fear.
POSITIVE ACTION is the remedy for fear!
If something feels scary at first, give yourself space, take baby steps and consistent action towards getting closer to your goal. Sit in silence and understand your fears – fear of judgment? fear of not being perfect? fear of being alone? fear of looking silly?fear of failure? Ask yourself, how serious and true are these fears?
And what’s the worst that can happen if you step outside these fears?
What is it costing you right now to stay in your comfort zone?
Would you not like to feel free and ecstatic that you conquered a fear and did something that you had been holding yourself back from?
Fear is an illusion, it’s a construct of our mind, it’s not real because it’s in our imagination. It’s all based on assumptions, assumptions that may or may not come true and it’s only purpose is to keep us safe, to protect us from perceived threats.
So why be afraid of doing things that will bring us joy? Why hold ourselves back from things that will help us step into our true power?
Life is too short to hold ourselves back from things that we really, truly want, that’s why choose courage to feel the fear and do it anyway!
As a very popular quote by Dr. Magdalena Battles, a Doctor of Psychology goes, “You live the words you tell yourself in your mind”. She defines self-talk as “the act of talking to ourselves either aloud or mentally. No matter good or bad, these are the messages that we are giving out all day long to ourselves. The messages you tell yourself will either encourage and motivate you because they are supportive and kind, or they will limit you because they are negative or harsh.”
So choose your words wisely and be your own biggest CHEERLEADER!
Talk to yourself like you would talk to a loved one. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Encourage yourself and tell yourself all the wonderful things that you want to hear from others.
How often have you left a situation and felt like you could have enjoyed it more if only you had been more YOU, more present and less conscious, less worried about how you looked or came across to someone?, less worried about what “others” thought about you?
I’ve definitely been here so many times and I’ve hated it every single time.
Just like some of our other evolutionary traits, caring about what others think is also an evolutionary adaptation? Why? Because we are social animals. We feel safe when we feel like we belong.
But what if we could find an internal balance and give ourselves as much importance as we give to others? What if we give ourselves the permission to see, hear and feel whatever is REAL for us in that moment instead of what it “should” be because of “society”, or someone else’s “opinion”?
We are all unique and there’s no way we can all fit in the same mould or live up to everyone else’s expectations. Also, who here does not judge other people? We all do from time-to-time! So why are we so afraid of others judging us?
If I asked you to think about the last time you thought you did something very silly, what comes up? Now, if I asked you to think of a time when your best friend made herself look as silly, what would you say? Nothing right? See what I mean?
All of us are way too busy thinking about ourselves to care about others’ goof-ups. So loosen up, let go and have some fun! Do what you WANT to do! Give yourself the permission to shine and embrace yourself completely. We only have this one life for as much as we are consciously aware of, so quit wasting time on what others think of you and think about “how YOU want to think of you!”.
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